I'm Kylie, somatic sex coach and sex and relationship psychotherapist.
My work for the last twenty years has been about holding space for transformation. It started with facilitating cultural change with government and community, learning to read power, navigate complexity and uncertainty, and support people and groups through difficult transitions.
For the past six years, I have brought all of that experience to the work I am most passionate about: women's bodies, pleasure, and power.
This specialisation did not emerge from a plan. It emerged from following what life was asking of me, from paying attention to the ‘pulls’ and deeper knowing that this work was mine to facilitate. In process oriented psychology, we call this "following your process."
About me: Starting out.
Twenty five years ago, I was sitting in a mothers' group in a community centre. It was one of those bright functional rooms: fluorescent light, mismatched plastic chairs, the smell of coffee, tired women and their babies.
I had just given birth to my daughter.
My then partner was away most of the time, studying ceramics at University. I was ready for motherhood, and I loved being a mum. But I was also lonely.
At first, the conversations were about prams and washing powders. I felt at odds, not quite fitting in, like an observer who had to hide my headstrong and authentic self.
Then one day, we started sharing our birth stories.
My own birth experience had been deeply supported. My doctor had asked, "What do you want? What matters to you? How do we make this a good experience?" I felt like a partner in something magical and sacred.
Listening to the other women, I realised that was not everyone's story.
I heard about unnecessary interventions, procedures done to women who had said no, births where their bodies were treated as problems to be managed rather than as powerful, sentient beings. I felt angry. I also felt something else: a fierce, clear sense that this was not okay, and that it was not just an individual problem, but a systemic one.
I want to be clear: there are deeply dedicated doctors and nurses providing world class care within these systems, and trying to facilitate empowered birth experiences. My own doctor was one of them. But the system itself, the protocols, the power dynamics, that system needed to change.
At the time, I was completing a social science degree. I chose the medicalisation of women's birth and bodies as my research topic. I interviewed the women in the group, captured their stories, and drew out themes. Together, we developed recommendations for the local hospital.
I was young and imperfect, but it was my first, naive attempt at facilitating deep, collective healing: women being listened to, believed, and validated about what had been done to their bodies.
That thread, women, bodies, stories, and liberation, has run through everything I have done since. It led me through twenty years of facilitation work, my own healing and eventually; to the work I do now in supporting women’s sexual empowerment.
Sexual healing and awakening.
I have also been the one to search for help and healing.
In my late thirties, a heartbreaking separation invited my own personal reckoning. I felt numb and and disconnected from my body and my sexuality. I had experienced sexual abuse as a younger person, and that lived in my body in ways I did not fully understand yet: chronic pain in my pelvis and sacrum, numbness in my cervix, difficult relationship dynamics and tensions that would not release.
I began apprenticing in womb healing practices across various lineages. I trained in process-oriented psychotherapy and devoted myself to somatic work and a deeper understanding of my nervous system. I learned to listen, not just with my mind, but with my body, my womb, my ancestry, my 'emotional landscape.
My personal healing and my professional facilitation work started informing each other. I came to understand that sexual liberation IS cultural work. That the disconnection I felt was not just personal, it was political. That the systems that medicalised women's births and bodies were the same cultural templates that had severed me from deep feminine embodiment.
Coming home.
Reclaiming my sexuality
I have reclaimed my sexual aliveness - not as a fixed state, but as an ongoing practice. Some months I feel deeply connected, alive, present in my body. Other months are tender, tentative, requiring self-compassion.
I know what it is like to feel numb, to wonder if pleasure will ever return, to navigate chronic pain and the aftermath of trauma. I also know what it is like to feel the first flicker of aliveness return and to experience expanded desire and joy.
This is not a "before and after" story. It’s a "becoming" story.
Somatic sex coaching
For the past six years, I have worked as a somatic sex coach and sex and relationship psychotherapist, facilitating women's sexual awakening in individual sessions and retreats.
I integrate somatic sexology, process-oriented psychotherapy and womb awakening, all body-based modalities that trust your body's intelligence.
I work in a way that is relational, unhurried, and deeply collaborative. I do not offer quick fixes or prescriptive formulas. I offer presence, attunement, and the understanding that healing is slow, non-linear, and sovereign. See my sessions page for more information on how I work.
Partnership and place
I am in long-term partnership, continuing to explore the deeper dimensions of intimacy, power, and connection. I live on the Northern Tablelands of NSW, on Gamilaroi and Anaiwan country, where the land itself teaches me about slowness, cycles, and belonging.
My credentials.
Core Training:
Licensed sex and relationship psychotherapist (Australia and New Zealand Process Oriented Psychology)
Certified somatic sex coach (Institute of Somatic Sexology)
Certified womb awakening facilitator (Institute of Feminine Arts)
Additional Training:
Sacred School of Shakti
Priestesses of Golden Age
Reiki Master
Accredited Mediator
Advanced Diploma Group Facilitation
Diploma Community Development
Bachelor of Social Science
Professional Memberships:
Somatic Sex Educators Association of Australia (SSEAA)
Psychotherapy and Counselling Federation of Australia (PACFA)
International Institute for Complementary Therapists (IICT)
Supervision:
Individual supervision: Dr Susan Hatch
Group supervision: SSEAA
Inclusivity.
I believe patriarchy harms all of us, women, men, trans and non-binary people. It limits our capacity for pleasure, authentic connection, and embodied aliveness. While my practice primarily focuses on women's sexual awakening, the work of reclaiming our bodies and our eroticism is not gendered. It is deeply human.
I work with individuals and people in partnerships, including couples and other relationship configurations. I welcome all people exploring these questions. If you resonate with what I offer, but you are not sure whether we are a good fit, I invite you to book a discovery call and let's see what’s possible.